“Sustaining relationships with others requires a good relationship to ourselves. Healthy self-esteem is an internal sense of worth that pulls one neither into “better than” grandiosity nor “less than” shame.”
– Terrence Real
Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Are you and your partner stuck in the same dance every night with escalating arguments or do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away from each other ?
Whether you have been together for two months, two years or two decades, it’s possible to work together and disrupt your negative patterns, communicate feelings and needs, heal past and present hurts and work towards getting what you want out of your relationship.
Some issues that bring couples to therapy are:
- No communication or negative interactions
- Infidelity, affairs or unhealthy boundaries with friends
- Hurtful or abusive actions
- Feeling abandoned or let down by your partner
- Effects of stress and pressure
- Problems in intimacy and/or sexual relationship
- Losses related to death of a parent, child, family member, separation, illness or migration
- Experience of trauma or abuse of one or both partners (either as a child or as an adult) is hurting the relationship now
- Addictive behaviours
- Lack of balance (work/life/family)
As a relational life therapist I help people name the negative pattern in the relationships. I look for a commitment from both partners to work towards helping each other to heal from past hurts and learn to develop the necessary skills needed to maintain a healthy connection.
Vij Richards Psychotherapy 